Those three Bicardi Limon and Diet Cokes combined with the pain of my new three-inch heels and the glacially low temperature on a mid-January Manhattan night led me to do something I wouldn’t normally do at 2:00 a.m. on the subway platform waiting for the uptown train—embrace my girlfriend tightly. It was just for body warmth, of course; I didn’t care who was around or who was watching. Still, when a frosty fellow subway-waiter uttered “Ugh. Gross” just audibly enough for us to hear, I became enraged. With the “woo-hoo’s” and deafening clapping of excited men lucky enough to catch a glimpse of the dozens of boob-bearing, beer-guzzling women at the bar we’d just left still buzzing in my ear, the hypocrisy was astounding. These girls were offered free drinks in exchange for their girl-on-girl make out sessions. They were being rewarded for kissing—not only by the other horny single men at the bar, but by the bartender as well.

The movement that’s now been topped with the cherry chapstick of Katy Perry’s summer anthem, “I Kissed A Girl,” continues to grow and gain acceptance. In fact, Tyra Banks recently coined a term for women who are part of this Perry popular clique—“barsexual,” a straight girl who kisses girls when she goes out. One self-proclaimed barsexual Tina, who went on Tyra’s show, claimed these public girl-on-girl hook-ups make her feel “powerful,” “sexy,” and the “center of attention.” But what Tina, and those like her, might not realize is that this sense of empowerment and sexual prowess are not the only advantages of their actions. Sure, men might be emptying their wallets on the barsexuals’ behalf, but they also are getting the idea that they’re entitled to a piece of the action, too. Personally, I've always been disappointed by women, no matter what sexual orientation, who put on displays for others. I mean, when your approach for striking up conversation is a same-sex kiss, it sends a pretty clear message: “My sexuality is for the taking.”

Still, Tina and her barsexual sidekick and best friend, Erika, were surprised at the response of a straight male audience member who’d witnessed their PDA show. “I was trying to go home with them… both of them actually,” the straight 20-something Nick told Tyra. “The entire respect factor actually got thrown out the door right from the beginning. I wasn’t trying to take them out to dinner anymore; I was trying to take them home.” These women were shocked by their spectators’ “disgusting” thoughts. But really—what did they expect? As Tyra pointed out, “You’re doing it for guys’ pleasure and for attention.”

Exactly. You can’t blame these guys for not focusing on what’s going on inside Tina and Erika’s heads. How can they even attempt to listen to the potentially intelligent things these girls have to say when their mouths are too busy connecting with each other? And how could they be upset by the caliber of men they attract? Men they meet at bars know nothing else about them besides the fact that they like to drink and make out.